Not all
that long ago I was sitting and chatting with my wife and she made a comment
that we are not as concerned about holiness as we once were. Her comment was in
the context of us having journeyed outside of more formal church structures
that had reformed theological systems of belief and a more fundamentalist
outlook on life toward the freedom that we had found within the house church
that we had started and the liberty that we discovered in Christ in this time.
This grace and liberty had lessened the fear of been smitten by the Lord that
we previously walked in and the example that she shared was that today we were
more likely to watch something on TV today whereas, in the past, we would have
switched it off the first time that we heard someone cuss.
Her
reflection was accurate as well, while I still consider myself a conservative
person, I do appreciate music that sometimes has naughty words in it. I’ll
watch a show like the Walking Dead even though it’s filled with zombies and
violence. And I’ll laugh hard at an inappropriate joke made on the Grand Tour.
I could try and justify these things by saying that it has not corrupted me in
any way, I never use coarse language myself, or encourage and applaud violence
but at the end of the day I have to admit that my standards have changed.
My
response on the day was that I think that my definition of holiness had
somewhat changed over time which was manifesting in our lives subconsciously.
Holiness was and is still important but it had become less of a personal
discipline and morphed more into a relational expression toward others. What I
mean by that is that growing up I always thought of holiness as
meaning don’t drink, don’t swear, don’t smoke, don’t listen to angry music (I
battled with that one), don’t watch movies that have any sort of age
restriction on them, don’t hang out at bad places and don’t hang out with
people who do any of the above. In other words, holiness was about abstaining
from certain behavioral issues that were or had the appearance of evil.
And some
of those things above probably are good to avoid with one or two debatable ones in
there as well. Yet my old, narrow view of holiness as you may have noticed, was
very negative and all about abstinence. It was all inward focused on not doing
bad things but had very little positive application in ones life. So how do I
see things now and what does it mean to be ‘set apart’? I think that at this stage
I see holiness as an expression of love more than anything else. Holiness is
not so much about what I am good at resisting (though that is important) as much as it is about how I
relate to others around me that is unique or in contrast to the ways of the
world. This certainly still carries inward connotations for sure, it requires
more dying to self and the same sort of discipline as before, it’s just more
others centered which means that it is more about doing good than
it is about been good.
You see,
I can abstain from all sorts of appearances of evil, I might not ever get drunk, be
rude to people, sleep around, get into fights or similar things. Instead I could spend
the day fishing or hiking in the mountains having never done anything ‘bad’ all
day. But does that make me holy? I don’t think so. Thinking about these things
I went and had a look at a few scriptures on holiness, and I soon discovered
that holiness is intrinsically relational. In 2 Corinthians 7:1 for example,
Paul urges us to ‘perfect holiness in the fear of God’, in the next verse he
elaborates by saying that we should wrong no one, corrupt no one and cheat no
one. Paul associates holiness with our conduct toward others.
I recently
read the comic-style biography on Dietrich Bonhoeffer, the faith Spy, and it
documents a moment during his travels where he has an epiphany about been a
good person verses doing good, faith to Dietrich had become something more than as intellectual study or exercise and shifted into something that demanded action in the face of
evil. I see the same thing with Peter when he makes a similar observation where he associates holiness with ones
conduct, “But as He who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your
conduct, because it is written, “be holy, for I am holy” (1 Peter 1:15-16).
Likewise the author of Hebrews urges his readers to “pursue peace with all
people and holiness” (12:14). I don’t think that it is possible to do one
without the other.
Lastly,
the verse that stood out the most for me was in Ephesians 5:1-3, keep in mind
that the Greek word for holiness is ‘ἅγιος’ (hagios) and is, in this case, translated
as ‘saint’.
Therefore
be imitators of God dear children. And walk in love, as Christ has also
loved us and given Himself for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God for a
sweet-smelling aroma. But fornication and uncleanness or covetousness, let it
not even be named among you, as is fitting of saints.
My take
away from this is that the saints (holy ones) are to live sacrificial, others
centered lives, guarding their own thoughts and actions as we walk in love. The
definition of holiness I am advocating for above does not detract from the
previous definition that I held too, but it certainly calls for a broadening of what we think
that it means to be set apart. What this may look like in practical terms, a decade ago I would have
declined an offer for an alcoholic beverage ten times out of ten, setting me apart from others in
whatever group environment I happened to find myself in. Today, I would
probably still decline a drink because I just don’t really like most alcoholic
beverages, but I might also say yes to appease my host, or to relax, share and enjoy the moment and a connection with another person. The point is, what was once a hard and fast rule is now more just a moment by moment decision guided by the principle
of loving others as you love yourself. Maybe I don’t want to appear to be a
religious stick in the mud and having a drink might cause my friend to open up
more than he would have if I simply said, “no thanks I don’t drink”. Maybe this
is why Jesus was happy enough to sit around a table flowing with wine and
questionable characters. His holiness was certainly not lessened by it as He
let His love for others and His Father motivate His actions. Of course, there
are places that have no grey areas, sexual immorality for example is always harmful and therefore the opposite of loving.
Perhaps we do not need to
complicate things so much. Remember Jesus’ new commandment, the golden rule,
and I guarantee that we will stay on course in pursuing holiness as well.